Wherever you stand on the tradition, it may happen that your partner asks your parents for your hand and your parents might say no.
if waiting five years to marry sounds like too long, then you’re the perfect candidate for waiting five years. If you marry someone, it’s with the intention of spending all of your remaining years with that person. So…a five-year time frame spent in any way with them should not feel long.
You told yourself a long time ago that you could only emotionally weather three major relationships ending in your life (or whatever your number is). You told yourself that you’d better just marry the third or fifth guy you seriously dated. Now you’ve hit that number.
You can’t get a real feel for a relationship in infrequent three-day bursts. If the visits have always been short, that comes with the pressure of “Okay we need to get along because if we get in a fight that’ll ruin this very short trip and then we won’t see each other for a while!” Nobody is truly themselves under those conditions. You need long visits to see how compatible you really are. You need to see how you fare with the understanding that this person isn’t going anywhere any time soon.
You were trying to do the whole traditional thing and not live together before marriage, but now that marriage is imminent, the reality is hitting you that you won’t know what it’s like to cohabitate with this person until you’re legally bound to him.
I feel like nice date nights have dropped off since his new obsession (or, fear) developed. I think he worries that if he plans a really nice date night that I believe the proposal is coming. Can a woman just get a steak dinner without proposal panic in the air?
If I’ve learned anything about sharing good news with others it’s this: people rarely respond the way you want them to. And that helped me develop my policies regarding sharing good news—policies like “Don’t tell others until I’m done celebrating,” “Never tell this specific list of people—they rain on my parade,” and “Preface the news […]
If you’ve ever been to a bridal shower then you’ve likely witnessed the, “How well do you know your significant other?” game. It’s usually filled with questions like, “How does your partner take his coffee?” and “What was the name of your partner’s first pet?” If the bride knows the answers, that means she definitely […]
You should stand on your own two feet before letting someone sweep you off them.
You're trying to be cool and pretend like you don't care, but then come the stages of engagement salt.
You won’t be the only one acting a little silly after getting engaged.
He’s clearly into you; your chemistry is explosive and your time together has ’till death do you part’ written all over it. You may even live together and have done the dog thing to get your “child” rearing basics up to snuff. All the numbers line up: friends, family, values and yet, he still hasn’t […]