When you try to make demands such as for a pay raise or better office conditions, does your boss tell you you’re being difficult? Or high-maintenance? There’s a good chance he doesn’t call male employees those words for making demands. He probably respects them for it. But he’s hoping the assumed female desire to be “agreeable” is stronger in you than your desire for your other wants.
When you do say no, don’t take time to feel bad. Don’t apologize for saying no. Train yourself to just do away with that nagging feeling that you did something wrong simply by saying no to something you didn’t have to do. That bad feeling is actually just the negativity of the other person—the one who was being bossy or selfish—rubbing off on you.
While my sister’s staff treats the work place like an emotional sharing circle, she isn’t allowed to show emotion. She isn’t allowed to be sad or bring her personal life to work because then it’s said that she’s just “being a woman.”
Getting human resources to accept and file a sexual harassment claim can be, unfortunately, rather difficult. Getting them to take action against the harasser can be even more difficult, and by the time all of the forms have been filed, the meetings have been held and the reprimands have been made, you could still have […]
These 10 etiquette suggestions will keep things professional.