He always suggests that he picks you up and you two drive together to the networking event. He suggests you two carpool to the out of town thing. He suggests you share an Uber back from the company party. It never makes sense. You live in totally different directions, and are working with different schedules, but he finds a way to justify it.
Don’t see your friend differently based on how she is at work. Most people are a completely different person in their work relationships versus their personal ones. They have to, in order to do a good job in their work. Don’t judge your friend as a friend based on how she behaves at work.
Have you noticed that people ask men about career more in conversation than they ask women? They may ask women a bit about it, but also things like, “How’s your mom doing?” and “Do you have anything fun planned this summer?” But they tend to focus on work stuff when talking to men