"It’s super overwhelming because this pregnancy was planned, but now he doesn’t see a future with me anymore,” Rock told her Instagram followers.
Do you use grand gestures to cover up a toxic relationship? Or perhaps have a partner trying to distract you from his toxic ways with presents and trips? Here are some signs.
Your poison is your antidote and your antidote is your poison. Returning to the guy would make the symptoms go away, just the way doing the drug makes the detoxer’s symptom’s go away. And then, should they try to detox again, the symptoms would be ten times as bad.
This is very common and I hear it all of the time from my friends in toxic relationships: the feeling that they’ve already put so much time and energy into this that they have to see it through. I want to argue, “The very fact that you’ve had to put so much energy into making this even barely functional should be reason to walk away…not to keep going.”
Also remember that, when they tried to tell you that guy was bad news, you pushed back. You argued with them. You wouldn’t listen. You weren’t having it. And then, they tried again. If they took your pushback, you now have to take theirs.
Know that while she may hear your words and respect your advice, she isn’t going to be strong overnight. You may talk to her for hours, and she’ll cry, and you’ll make a game plan of how she’ll get out of this. And when she reports to you the next day, you’ll learn she didn’t have the strength to do what she said she’d do the night before. She’s still with the guy. That’s because this will all happen in baby steps.
Those in toxic relationships tend to take things too quickly by doing things like moving in together only three months into knowing each other. So your living situation is always a mess. You always need a couch to crash on. You’re breaking leases and losing money.
When you are with friends, you’re texting your boyfriend. You’re probably fighting. Even if you aren’t fighting, he gets angry if you don’t text back promptly so there you are, texting with him throughout lunch with your friends.
Each time you get back with this person, what you are saying to him—at least on a subconscious level—is that the way he behaved before was fine. What you are saying is that the dynamic that existed before is acceptable. You may say with your words, “Things will be different” but they won’t be because you’re still you and he is still himself.
If you don’t think you are worthy of being adored, then you are only comfortable in relationships where getting that affection feels really difficult. Once you work on your self-esteem issues, you won’t want to bother with a relationship where it feels very hard to get the adoration and affection you deserve.
Again, every couple fights—duh. But, if your friends feel the need to point out just how often you and your man fight, that’s not good. That means you fight so often that you even do it in social settings. You’ll leave a party to fight. You’ll fight in front of others. Your fights spill over into every area of your life.
Think back to who you were before dating this narcissist. Think about the things you used to do, that you stopped doing because he told you not to. Really meditate on who you were before the narcissist tried to break you.