"Stop telling victims of violence to forgive their abusers. It’s not the Band-Aid people think it’s giving."

A few of my male “friends” or at least colleagues listened to me talk about and observed the men I dated over the years. Then, would eventually come onto me—quite strongly—with the argument, “I’m better than all those other guys you’ve dated.” Well, by being aggressive and using the things I’ve shared with them as fodder, they are not.