In her latest interview, Grammy-nominated singer and Golden Globe-winning actress Andra Day said that playing Bille Holiday in Hulu's recently released biopic about the jazz icon helped her deal with the porn and sex addictions she faced in her personal life.
All of it—her sponsor, the meetings, and the friends she makes in the meetings—helps with the loneliness. And loneliness is often the main reason people become sex and love addicts. But this is a healthy way to fill the loneliness, because these individuals know she has a problem, and don’t enable her.
Codependency is an effective mask for sex addiction. One carries the other. Some people don’t realize they’re sex addicts because they also have codependency issues, always jumping from one relationship to another. The issues can go hand in hand, but really, the codependent individual is just covering up her sex addiction within the shelter of a “committed relationship.”
Sex addicts cross lines a lot and have sex with people it’s inappropriate to have sex with, like their friend’s wives, their bosses, their third cousin removed. Everyone sleeps with one inappropriate person at some point, but sex addicts sleep with several.
