Being hurt a few times is no reason to give up a lifetime of happiness, all in the name of feeling “safe.” You can have both. You can be with someone who makes your heart race but also puts you at ease. Not everyone is willing to wait to find that, though.

You recently broke off another engagement, or were left at the altar. It’s not really normal someone would be engaged to someone new within 18 months of breaking off another engagement. But, perhaps you’re just hoping to pick up right where you left off so as to not waste any more time.

Ladies, this is not the way to get a man to put a ring on it.