Moreover, the gang discussed how vocalizing one's boundaries is similar to sharing one's preferences.
By the time the word “boundary,” comes up, it’s often because one has been violated, so it’s no wonder that we can have negative associations with the word. But it’s also a shame since boundaries can be healthy tools that actually improve relationships and can make everyone involved feel respected and safe.
There are some times when setting boundaries is simple enough, but then there are some really tricky scenarios when setting up boundaries feels rough for all parties. We went over what some of those are with licensed marriage and family therapist and author Kiaundra Jackson.
From a young age, for many people, the word no has negative connotations.
Family exists in this ever-difficult in-between world where there must be boundaries and closeness.
Sometimes, not all parties will be satisfied with the boundaries you put in place. And when that happens, guilt can show up a lot.
You haven’t been able to move your career along because every time you try to, somebody needs your help with their career—or their stuff. So the day you plan on working on your resume or building your website, a friend insists she needs you to be there for her after a break-up. So you do that, instead.
It’s okay to want a clear vision on what a relationship is. If a friend or someone you’re dating disappears for months at a time, failing to respond to calls and texts, and then popping back up as if that didn’t happen, address it. Tell them they can be in your life consistently or not at all.
So you’re afraid that if you say no, the person will pressure you and make you feel bad. Good riddance to that person. Anyone who would pressure you into doing something you’re saying you can’t do or wouldn’t be good for you doesn’t care about you. So that’s the last person you should help, anyways.
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No, we absolutely cannot get along.