As a 2025 bride, people always ask me, "Are you stressed out with wedding planning?" I always answer no because I planned my wedding three years before I got engaged to my fiancé.
The nice thing is that your partner has planned a wedding before, so he has some ideas. The annoying thing is that your partner has planned a wedding before, so he’s recycling ideas. He may already know who the best florist, and caterer, and even wedding planner is because…he used them on his first wedding. But now you feel those are forever tainted. You don’t want to essentially have the same wedding he had the first time. So you’re stuck between wanting to rely on his expertise, since he’s done this before, and wanting to ignore everything he knows, because it’s tied to his first wedding.
It seems like so much is at stake if they cancel now. But, none of what’s at stake if they cancel is as big as what’s at stake if they don’t: people’s lives.
He probably hasn’t thought about the fact that having a wedding gives him an excuse to get all of his buddies—from college, high school, childhood—who have moved all over the world, to come to town to party with him.
If you cannot afford to attend the bachelorette party, just say so, and don’t come. Don’t start trying to edit the plans to fit your budget. Don’t start polling the other women to see if they, too, find it too expensive.
When you hear of a couple calling off their wedding, your brain jumps to something dramatic. Maybe the long-lost lover of one came back, or one of them confessed they were gay. Perhaps one admitted to cheating, or to being in love with the other person’s best friend. But not every canceled wedding looks like […]
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