The studies in our intro show that people tend to set the same goals over and over again
This will be very interesting and kind of make you laugh at yourself. Potential interests will pop up, but this time, you won’t engage. There will be a new cute neighbor on the street, or a new member of your kickball league. Usually, by this time next week, you’ll have been out once or twice and probably made out. But you won’t be engaging in this. So time will pass, and you’ll just observe this person – uninvolved with him. Then time will show you some traits you don’t like. Maybe some red flags and deal-breakers. You got to witness these from a safe distance because you didn’t act on your impulse to flirt and “See where things go.” You’ll laugh at yourself realizing, typically, by the time these red flags would have popped up, you would have already been deeply involved in a fling with this person, and having to break it off would have been painful. Learning about him this way is totally painless. Hm. Maybe there is something to this being alone thing.
When you sense your family resisting your growth, it’s also important to remember that you have some resources today that they simply didn’t at your age.
If you’re lucky, you’ll have those times in life when you go through what feels like a spiritual awakening. It’s a time of a new, heightened awareness in which you begin to understand how to navigate many areas of your life that seemed stuck before.
One thing that can be particularly challenging about success is feeling that it creates distance between you and your loved ones who have perhaps not attained success.