Today is Rihanna’s 37th birthday, and she has plenty to celebrate! Not only is she another year more fabulous, but her longtime love, A$AP Rocky, was just found not guilty on Tuesday of firing a handgun at a former friend, A$AP Relli, on a Hollywood street in 2021. Through it all, their bond has remained unshakable.
While many of your maternal instincts will hide until you actually have babies – because nothing quite brings them out like a little cooing cutie who has your eyes – there are ways to know if you have those instincts now.
As the one who has experienced both sides of that change, being childless, and then having kids, shouldn’t my parent friends be the ones to be a bit more considerate in how they speak to their childless friends? That’s what I think. So I am often surprised when my friends with kids say these things to me.
How early? We aren’t even sure, and we are afraid to know the answer. But, look: our parents thought it was shocking that we started having sex around age 16. And we thought we were old enough. So what does that mean? That today kids do it at…12? 13? And if we don’t just give them birth control and say, “have fun” that we are the close-minded ones?
Have several friends or family members stay with you and your partner for a few days. Every moment, someone will need something. Where do you keep your mugs? Do you have any cereal? How do you work the remote control? Shoot, they broke something—was that valuable? They need a ride. They don’t have a car here.
Does your partner’s reluctance to have children stem from his own bad childhood? Perhaps he could benefit from therapy. If his childhood still affects him so much that it controls a major decision like having children, that’s something he needs to work out.
Things have cooled down a bit since Melody's arrival.
If things didn’t work out with your first spouse, then that means, naturally, your children may have grown up in a turbulent home. They heard you and your partner fighting a lot towards the end. It was rough. Your second set of children grows up in a more peaceful home, which can make your first kids feel like they were cheated.
The truly close-minded don’t want their children hanging out with the kids of unmarried parents. Right…because that’s one of the real dangers and horrors happening in the world right now.
There aren’t that many people per capita in the suburbs so you can easily get to know all of your kid’s friends quickly. There simply won’t be that many people for your child to meet, so you’ll know with whom she runs around.
A man's behavior towards you will also likely translate to his behavior with your children.
They loved raising you. They love having children. They thought that parenting was the greatest experience ever and they want to make sure that you get to experience it, too.