Sitting around, quietly waiting for someone to notice you and give you what you want without you ever having to ask for it doesn’t make you nice. It’s actually the opposite of that because, you’re setting others up to fail. A woman who might have said yes if you’d asked her out is now the devil in your eyes because she dated someone else. But you never asked her out.
I also think it’s a cop out when men say they’re going to stop being nice, to get women, because they aren’t taking any responsibility for their choices. Men: has it occurred to you that you’re attracted to women who aren’t nice? Who aren’t grateful? Who aren’t warm? You may just be trying to turn not-nice women into nice women, rather than just pursuing kind women to begin with.
My “bad guy” infatuation began in high school when I entered into my first serious relationship (well, serious for a 17-year-old). The guy was a football player, your traditional 6-foot-2 and 230 pounds of fineness. Although our personalities were polar opposites, this young man’s slick wit and unconventional ways kept me intrigued and in love. Our […]
There’s always been a debate between “nice guys” and “bad boys.” For some reason women feel a sense of thrill of the unknown when it comes to instability of a bad boy. On the other side, nice guys often get the reputation as a floor mat, with a weak backbone. So in the long-term, after […]