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It’s pretty common knowledge that mothers and daughters can have complicated relationships.
You often feel that you have to identities – there is the real you, and the you that you present to your mom. You feel that your life away from your mom is this secret life. That’s where you get to be the real you
Think about the alternative. Think of a world in which you called your mother and she didn’t ask you any questions about your life. Think of a world in which you wanted to share with her about your fight with your boyfriend or your first date, and your mom barely listened, and behaved completely bored. That is a chilling thought. It is actually kind of nice to have someone who is invested in our lives, even if that someone sometimes gives feedback we didn’t ask for.
The statistics never boost anybody’s hopes, but your parent is obsessed with them. She knows all of the statistics about the likelihood that you’ll ever actually make money at this, that that book will ever get published, that your business will ever actually take off, and things like that. She knows all the numbers. And she recites them to you. That’s what she did to herself—that’s why she gave up on her dreams. The numbers are not encouraging. Don’t look at them.
When my mom visits me, if I don’t give her my entire attention—if I dare to step away for a work call—she starts pointing out that I don’t have many photos of her in the house. “Don’t you want people to know you love your mother?” she’ll ask.
If you tell your mom you found a new apartment or got a new job, she immediately goes into critical mode. She picks up on all the things that could be wrong about the apartment—it’s too close to a loud metro station or it doesn’t get much light. She mentions all that could go wrong with the company—what if they go under in a year? That industry is very new.
The funny thing about building your life around your parent’s criteria for you is that they aren’t even there to experience your life. How much are they there? Maybe they visit a few times a year or month. Maybe they call you on the phone. They’re barely actually there!
I also remind my mom that I would much rather have a partner who is emotionally, mentally, and physically present than a super rich partner who is always at work or thinking about work when he isn’t there.
Obsessing over how you wish your parents were or weren’t is like keeping your umbilical cord attached to them. Fixating on them is a form of being attached to them. You can’t really figure out who you are until you stop obsessing over how your parents are or aren’t like you.
It’s great when you and your daughter get into a deep, tearful, emotionally complex conversation. But some mothers—certainly my own—seems to believe that our interaction wasn’t meaningful unless we had a meaningful conversation. It’s okay to sometimes just talk about shopping and movies. It’s still time spent together.