If there are major details about your partner you wouldn’t want your parents to know, you’ll need to address that first.
If you start a new relationship with someone who is launching a business – say they’re opening a restaurant or going live with their startup tech company – you will often wonder if they’re cheating on you. They’ll go MIA for days on end. They’ll take days to respond to texts. They’ll have to bail on plans at the last minute. They’ll sneak out of bed at 5am for a call.
We shouldn’t rush relationships, but many still do. We spoke with licensed therapist and life coach Tiffany Richards (IG: @TiffanyRaeShan) about the dangers of moving too fast, and why people do it anyway.
“If we think of filling a void, we think, ‘What will just fix the here and now?’ rather than thinking about longevity, rather than thinking about stability and long term potential,” says Dr. Melanie Hussain.
When you aren’t quite ready to let go of something, your brain will play tricks on you. It will find the morsel of something good in a relationship that is, as a whole, not good.
When you really want this next date or relationship to work out, you might turn a blind eye to some things. Hell, you might close your eyes and put on a blindfold. But, that’s just a way of deferring small pain now that will come back big time later.
There are many messages people (particularly women) are fed throughout their lives about love that are not helpful. One issue such teachings can cause is the Industrial Fairytale Complex.
There is some antiquated relationship advice that has just got to go. I can’t believe anyone is still slinging it. It’s left over from some era when men didn’t view women as equals, women didn’t demand to be treated as equals, and, generally speaking, romantic partners weren’t friends.
Some people who come from the same city or small town find that no other place in the world seems to share the values they grew up with. But, if they find an old high school sweetheart living in the same city, it could be the first person they’ve met there who seems to have the same belief system.
You’ve found yourself incredibly bored with your own story. You and your partner have gotten down to just talking about… the weather and…traffic. You know—things people talk about when they’re out of things to talk about.
Does a divorcée have the right to hold the esteemed title of relationship expert? This author thinks so.
Is it worth sacrificing your relationship?