While Tinkovu says it’s for “friends,” it’s clearly for lovers. Once you connect to another Tinkovu user, you can do a little tap in the app that will send your partner a notification that lets them know you were thinking of them. It’s called a “tink” and you’ll love seeing your tinks add up as your partner thinks of you throughout the day. There are also customized quizzes to help you get to know one another, and flirty features like the Chrono Tink, which lets you write a message that your partner cannot open until a certain date, or the Memory Tink, which lets you create a souvenir photo from special moments.

You can’t get a real feel for a relationship in infrequent three-day bursts. If the visits have always been short, that comes with the pressure of “Okay we need to get along because if we get in a fight that’ll ruin this very short trip and then we won’t see each other for a while!” Nobody is truly themselves under those conditions. You need long visits to see how compatible you really are. You need to see how you fare with the understanding that this person isn’t going anywhere any time soon.

LOVE

These tips will keep the candle burning in your love life when you and your boo are far apart.

You have to schedule a fight. You have to text and email to find a time when you can both talk for a while…so you can continue the fight.