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We all experience it. You hear that a friend just received a major promotion with a life-changing salary increase or you overhear a colleague gushing about purchasing their dream home. It's natural to wince as you feel a bit of jealousy welling up inside of you. But what happens if that feeling becomes overwhelming?
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When you’re in a jealousy spiral, it feels uncontrollable, right? Like you can’t control your thoughts. Your mind is just making sh*t up to get you upset. And you can feel this shame, like this jealousy is your dirty secret that nobody would understand.
I was so dead-set on showing my partner that I’m totally rational and normal, and that anyone would respond this way. I said something to the effect of, “Hey, I’ll be fine. I mean, you don’t really know what this feels like, and you couldn’t, unless the tables actually were turned. And I wouldn’t want you to feel the way I feel right now, because it sucks. So I just have to grin and bear it.”
You seek out the others who wanted the same thing and didn’t get it. You form a group for what you call “camaraderie” but it’s really about commiserating. You find power in getting others to agree that the system is broken, that dirty politics were at play, and that this person didn’t really deserve this win. You want the winner to feel isolated for the very fact that she won, because she isn’t part of this group you have formed.
Once you broach paranoia territory, it’s a slippery slope. Next, you’ll follow him. Then, you’ll create a fake social media account as another woman, and reach out to him to flirt, just to see how he responds!
Creating a sense of teamwork around the house can really help bust jealousy. Rather than having your two kids do the exact same thing, side by side (like fold laundry), give them different parts of one, big task. That way, they will feel like they built something together, but can’t compare their skills in their tasks because they did different things.
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Jealousy is natural. In fact, at one point, it was necessary. Before monogamous institutions like marriage (or really the concept of monogamy at all) were a thing, the only way women had to ensure the fathers of their children weren’t out spreading their seed, and therein owing precious resources to other women, was by being […]
A lot of people confuse jealousy with love, protection, loyalty and a lot of other positive elements of a relationship. And it can feel like that, at times. If someone doesn’t want you spending time with other people, talking to the opposite sex, or even talking about the opposite sex, it can feel like, “Well […]