It’s easy as a new couple to get so wrapped up in each other that you forget about the activities you used to enjoy doing alone.
People cannot be expected to read one another’s minds. Nor can they be expected to understand a love language that isn’t their own overnight – the same way we wouldn’t expect someone whose first language is English to speak French overnight. There is a learning curve.
Like with many of the things you’re trying to accomplish in your life, you may find, as time becomes more and more limited, the trick is working smarter not harder. And that’s the same for showing your partner he or she is a priority.
The “one” is the “one” (though many argue you have several “ones”) because he’s different from the rest.
When they say that “Marriage is hard work” they often leave out the part, “But it’s so worth it. And it’s fun work, too.” That’s how it should feel in a good marriage. Here are ways to feel more in love with your spouse each day.
The happiest of relationships consist of two people who constantly ask themselves, “How can I make my partner feel loved today? How can I make my partner feel attractive today? How can I make my partner’s day easier?” That goes in both directions.
Keep that friend group diverse! You don’t just need lots of married friends. They’ll share the same kinds of stories you have and make you feel very insulated from your non-married friends. Yes, having couples friends is convenient, but having single friends is good for your soul. So even if it means stepping away from your beau for the night, do it to see your single friends.
Does he have a small, core crew for whom he would do anything? Does he have perhaps not many friends but very good friends? There is loyalty and history there. They know each other very well and love to spend time together. Or, does he have lots of surface friends?
Laughing together actually means that you have similar intelligence levels—all sorts of intelligences. It means you share a similar emotional IQ, as well as general intelligence about the world. If you share a sense of humor, you likely have a lot more in common emotionally and mentally.
Anything that is already fun is made so much more fun by his presence. Going on vacation with him is like vacation squared, because life already feels like a vacation with him, and now you’re literally on vacation with him. Unless of course, the opposite is true, and you feel many good times have been ruined by yet another fight with your boyfriend, or one of his moods.
He often lectures you on door safety. He tells you to never answer for anyone you weren’t expecting. He tells you that it’s okay to be rude and tell the person to go away. He tells you that even if the person says they’re in trouble, you should stay indoors, and just call the police for the person. It’s sweet—he doesn’t want anyone pulling a fast one on you.
On the rare occasion that you do fight, it ends quickly. You can typically squash it and get back to feeling totally affectionate and playful within 48 hours. That’s just how strong your connection is, and how much you both genuinely want to get back to getting along.