You do not attach your sense of self-worth to external validation or another person’s love of you.
Have you ever heard the phrase "single until married?" Yesterday Keke Palmer had people all over the internet asking how much of themselves they should commit to giving in a relationship where they're not yet married to the other person.
For far too long, being single on Valentine's Day has been considered a faux pas, but how about we change the game this year? No boo? No bae? No problem! Let's normalize treating ourselves to the very best experiences on Valentine's Day regardless of our relationship status. We deserve it!
The concept of self-partnering provides a very empowering possibility: that you are complete without another person as your partner.
You may feel that being alone is a waste of time. The actual waste of time is jumping from one long-term, serious relationship to the next. Each of those relationships has been a waste of time. You may think, “But I learned so much about relationships from each one!” No you didn’t. If you enter relationships from a stance of codependency and fear of being alone, those aren’t—I’m sorry to say it—even real relationships. Those are…like panic rooms. You’re just in there to avoid the scary stuff outside. But you don’t learn anything about a healthy relationship in which both people feel confident, stable, free, and whole.
