Often, when we feel guilty, we make ourselves a villain in our memories.
When you believe you are bad because of your past mistakes, you wind up accepting abusive friends, mean partners, and generally sub-par relationships. You believe, in your subconscious, that you deserve those as punishment. Hey, if you learned from your mistakes and don’t do those things anymore then you deserve good relationships.
Does one friend always flake on your plans at the last minute? Or talk about herself the whole time you hang out? It’s okay to just let her know. If she really cares about you, she’ll thank you for telling her, and she’ll fix the issue. If she gets mad at you for telling her, then she really wasn’t a friend.
Long before I got married, I had a vision of what my marriage would look like. Despite my aversion to the idea of being a stay-at-home mom, I always wanted a career that would permit me to have a flexible enough schedule where I would be able to spend time with my kids. But more than […]
If you even have to wonder if this is you, then trust me, it is. Why so serious?