It should always feel like your partner wants to do the best job taking care of you aka the most thorough. It shouldn’t feel like he’s just trying to get it over with—this caretaker task—so he can get back to his life. So, for example, if you ask him to get you soup, he shouldn’t come back four minutes later because he just went to the liquor store and got the grossest can of soup, so he wouldn’t have to drive to the place with the good stuff.
A nurturer sees it as his job to keep you happy, just like you see it as your job to keep your partner happy. If you even hint that he has let you down in some way, he’ll immediately be on the task of fixing it.
Every man who has a job, loves his mama, and doesn't put his hands on a woman think he's a good guy. But is that really all it takes?