A lot of the changes to your sex life, from that first drought to the natural slow down, should have happened long before you get married. But even then, there will still be a few things you notice that are different after you tie the knot.
We decided to get married approximately five weeks before actually getting married. For some, that seems fast. But we’d been ready for a very, very long time. Some people ask how you know you’re ready. It’s an important thing to ask. Here is how I knew I was 110% ready to marry my husband.
I know it is a difficult time in history. A tense one. Protests took place along the very street our chapel sat on just two days before we got hitched. We wondered if we should cancel. But ultimately, we decided that now, more than ever, is a time to grow love.
if waiting five years to marry sounds like too long, then you’re the perfect candidate for waiting five years. If you marry someone, it’s with the intention of spending all of your remaining years with that person. So…a five-year time frame spent in any way with them should not feel long.
I’ve noticed some massive changes occur in the weddings I attended/participated in for my friends when we were all in our twenties, versus now when we’re in our thirties. Also, planning my own wedding right now (surprise!) I can see how my thinking about weddings is very different than it was a decade ago
What happens when your best friend announces she’ll be marrying her boyfriend you do not like? Maybe he’s fine even but, he’s just all wrong for her. Everybody knows it. The other friends. Her family. It’s starting to look like you won’t just be laughing about this relationship in a few years
How you feel on your wedding day says a lot, but we look at it in the wrong ways, I feel. It’s kind of alarming the way we normalize things like cold feet and butterflies. Or how we think it’s totally normal for the bride or groom to drink two bottles of champagne just to get the nerve to make it down the aisle.
We all do it: throw ourselves into one project in order to avoid our higher goals. It’s quite common for someone to get married so that marriage can be their project instead of…their career, fixing things with their family, their own personal work and healing, etc.
When it’s time to hit the dance floor, you could have a choreographed dance prepared together, as a family. Just be ready for everyone to film it, and for the possibility it goes viral online because it’s so darn cute.
If you get married before the age of 25, you may find yourself in a situation where you just think the way your partner thinks. You haven’t yet established your own ideas and beliefs, independent of what others think. And your spouse, of course, influences your thinking so strongly. There is danger in forming such a codependent union when your own mind is still forming
Marriage isn’t only for the young—it’s for the young at heart who see the beauty in uniting your life with another’s. And you can be young at heart at any age
You make some vows when you get married. And living up to those vows does set off a series of changes—changes that can affect your friendships.