We do split the bill on a lot of things, but that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t still treat me from time to time. And I treat him. That’s not a feminist issue—that’s about being a loving couple who just likes to spoil each other sometimes.
Flannels, work boots, boxy jeans, bro tanks, etc. A lot of male feminists go out of their way to never wear such things and go out of their way to criticize the men who do. I’ll state again that to assume someone conforms to gender norms for the sake of conforming—and not because they simply like that look—is decidedly not feminist.
You have no idea who is looking at your social media. It may not just be your circle of other man-hating friends. It could be potential employers, or a guy whom you actually like, who now won’t ask you out because of that man-hating manifesto you posted.
You can’t call yourself a feminist if you actively spread male stereotypes. Any time you say, “ALL MEN…fill in generalization here” you’re automatically not a feminist because you spread gender stereotypes. It doesn’t matter that you’re spreading male ones—if you maintain that one gender has stereotypes then you must maintain that both do.
Thankfully, there a some pretty prominent Black female celebrities who let it be known to the world how much they support other women.
