Multiracial friendship's may be more difficult to maintain in the midst of the misogyny, racism, and xenophobia of the Trump administration.
Having older friends gives you privileged access to hard-earned life lessons and wisdom.
Show Up And Show Out For Your BFF
The ladies talk about what differentiates a friend from an acquaintance.
A few really close friends are worth more than tons of acquaintances, and yet, we often let friendships fade into associations without even realizing it. When that happens, you take on a more passive role, going through the motions to keep things alive rather than really nurturing the relationship.
There are many reasons we might hold on to friendships that make us feel less than great, but it's important to evaluate whether that relationship is doing you any good.
Not everyone grows up with the same understanding of what it means to be a friend, or what healthy expectations are of friends.
The interesting thing about this pandemic is that, unlike a friend’s choice to go vegan or buy a dog from a breeder, this is temporary. Very temporary. It might be a shame to make a permanent decision based on a temporary circumstance.
You often feel like you’re holding everybody up while you check prices. Everybody agrees on a restaurant or activity, but you’re desperate trying to find their price sheet online—there often isn’t one, because the fancy restaurants your friends like don’t list prices—before you agree to this.
Another way flakes try to get credit for showing up is by showing up so incredibly late that they may as well not have shown up at all. I used to have a friend like this. I’d invite her to dinner parties going from 7 to 10pm. She’d show up at 9:45 when I was cleaning dishes.
Maybe in the past, if your friends bailed on your plans because they met a B-list celebrity who invited them to go on his yacht right in the middle of your birthday party, you forgave it. You totally understood their need to go yachting with that celebrity to miss your birthday party. Today you value close friendships over social climbing, and see that behavior as messed up.
“Wow, your friends are like…really nice” my childhood friend, who was visiting from out of town, said in awe after attending a small girl’s night I’d put together in her honor. I wanted her to meet the other wonderful women who’d come into my life throughout the years when her and I had kept up […]