If your mom friend agrees to an adult-only girls’ night, you better not flake on her.
You’ve offered many times to host girls’ night at your place. Nobody ever takes you up on it. You’ve insisted you want to. But, still, everyone says, “Oh that’s so generous of you but really not necessary.” They don’t want to drink out of red plastic cups and eat fake cheese. They also might want to control the conversation at girls’ night (aka not so many graphic sex stories) and feel they can’t when it’s at your place.
You don’t really open up to this person about things like your relationship, your family, or your dreams. You don’t really like their energy or input, and don’t want it coming close to the things that matter most to you. You think if anything she’d hold you back.
They’re not as close with him as they are with you, or as you are with him. You can assure them that he’s totally open-minded and cool with anything, but they don’t know that firsthand through years of experience the way you do. You’re asking a lot of them by telling them to just “talk about whatever” in front of your man.
Oh you better not abandon a female friend at a bar. Even though, technically, if we just wanted one-on-one time we really should have stayed in…we can get very upset if a friend wanders off to talk to others at a bar.
It’s good to have an older, wiser friend around who will convince you not to invest all of your savings in this absurd business idea of your other friend, or who will talk you out of joining that cult.
When you have different careers in totally different industries, you’re bound to wind up with two separate groups of friends who are vastly different. Getting the two groups to co-mingle can be tricky, so you just wind up spending less time with that original friend.
The truth is that's not your place.
He pays more attention to her than you but they're just friends? Ring the alarm!
Sometimes her only intention is to have a great friendship with your guy. Other times, she's merely occupying the friend role until the girlfriend role is available.
Does your man have more female friends than you?
Do you need to feel a certain "spark" for your relationship to work?