In an effort to encourage women to stop dimming their light to make their men happy, Raynell “Supa Cent” Steward's recent strongly-worded post said when it comes to dating a female boss, men either needed to get right or get left, especially if they can't keep up.
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He’s also much nicer to the male customers or clients than he is to you. Again, he may not be disrespectful in tone to you, but you don’t get any of the overt friendliness that the male customers get. It’s almost like he’s trying to punish you for something…for being a woman?
If your personal life is interfering with your work life, well, you just have to make sure that doesn’t happen. But it feels almost safe to bring your personal life to work because you think “My boss will get it: she’s just like me!”
While my sister’s staff treats the work place like an emotional sharing circle, she isn’t allowed to show emotion. She isn’t allowed to be sad or bring her personal life to work because then it’s said that she’s just “being a woman.”
Alright well, none of those men have said or done anything to make me uncomfortable today. Only you have, by making this comment. Oh, also, it’s not my job to adjust what I wear so as not to distract men. Men aren’t animals—they’re humans who can control themselves. If they don’t, that’s their fault.
Because you have had to be very upfront, straightforward and—yes—abrasive to get where you are, you can accidentally carry those traits over to your romantic relationships and frighten your partner. You have to remember to couch things and say them more lovingly sometimes.