Selah seems resolved to understand how her upbringing affected her and the tasks she has to take to undo her generational trauma.
When I lived in town, I felt taken for granted. In a week I might pop over to my parent’s house several times to help them with all sorts of errands, and all they’d talk about is the one time I didn’t make it. There was no big, “Thank you for ALL you do for us.” And that made me not want to help them at all. Now, when I go home, I’m happy to help with a few things because I get that big, “Thank you.”
Perhaps there was a painful event in the family like a sudden death, an arrest, or an affair. You may have all felt the pain around that. Surprisingly, being with others who were affected by the same tragedy can help you heal your wounds.
It’s possible that if your friends are asking you, it’s because they’re right—you would make an awesome godparent. Sometimes your friends know you better than you know yourself, isn’t that true? Just something to think about, if you’re on the fence.
Sometimes, your partner can’t help but wonder if you have a tendency to run away. You did, in a way, run away from your family after all. You have to assure him that you didn’t do so out of weakness; it was actually a tough but correct decision for your wellbeing.
Meds don't handle these types of situations for me, I'm supposed to handle them myself.
Though words like "irresponsible" and "dangerous" can be used to describe the erratic lifestyle in which my mother-in-law lives, using those words as justification for my unwillingness to leave my son in her care would have been like pulling the trigger on a loaded gun