So, if you don’t want to be back with the ex, why did you do that? It was a symptom of something—you were acting out for some reason. What reason? What is off balance in your life? You know you have some serious self-reflection to do, and possibly a visit to your therapist’s office.
Do they think that he just replaced her with a replica? Or that I AM her? Maybe they just think, “Huh. Sally’s done something new with her bangs.”
It’s easy to get pulled into a vacuum when talking about exes. When you talk to your friends about past relationships, it can go on for hours. But your boyfriend is not your friend. Well, he is—and he should be—but he’s also the person with whom you have sex, so don’t talk to him about your exes the way you do with platonic friends. Keep it brief.
Everybody wants someone with whom they can share their victories. If your ex is single, he will probably reach out when he makes his first big deal, gets that first big investor for his company, and so on.
Are you still trying to hold on?
I did a mini survey amongst my friends, and 9 out of 15 believed that that is information your new lover should not be privy.