Maybe you even thought he was cute at the time but thought “Meh. Let my friend have him. What are the odds he’d be my soul mate anyways?” But now, here you are, and you two have been exchanging messages. But stop right there. Really. Stop. Here are very compelling reasons not to date your friend’s ex.
I can’t imagine what it’s like for single individuals who don’t even have a boyfriend or girlfriend to get tired of right now. But, I’m telling you, people are getting back with their exes during quarantine and it's not good
I think at some point, most women try to save a broken man. He’s just so hard to resist, like a baby bird with a broken wing. He’s messed up in some way, and we take it upon ourselves to be his nurse and therapist (and girlfriend). Eventually, we try every way to save him and realize we can’t—people typically need to save themselves.
It’s easy to get pulled into a vacuum when talking about exes. When you talk to your friends about past relationships, it can go on for hours. But your boyfriend is not your friend. Well, he is—and he should be—but he’s also the person with whom you have sex, so don’t talk to him about your exes the way you do with platonic friends. Keep it brief.
Do not respond to the crazy ex. If he reaches you someway, use all of your willpower not to reply. It might be hard because he could say some truly provoking things. Or, you could just be at your wits end. But any sort of response only encourages him to continue.
So if you have a new boyfriend and don’t want to let go of your friend with your ex, you might be thinking, “Maybe I can get the two to meet! They’ll hit it off! Then I can have everything I want.”
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