It’s no secret that parenthood is hard on a couple’s sex life.
Maybe you’re like me, and need to feel emotionally sound to feel aroused. And yet, you thought you felt well enough throughout this pandemic to be in the mood.
For me, sex is something I do during good times. And I don’t think anyone would describe the world as experiencing good times right now. Here is why it feels wrong to have sex during the COVID-19 outbreak.
Because of all the mini fights we’d have during sex—me trying to navigate us into a different position, him putting us back in missionary, me trying to do new moves and bring in toys, him squashing that idea—there was such an awkwardness after sex. You know how you feel after a fight with your partner? That’s kind of how it felt after sex. We’d just had many unspoken arguments.
“You’re not attracted to me anymore,” “You don’t look at me the way you used to,” “You don’t want me anymore—you just pretend to” and other hits like these are just some lines you may blurt out when you become frustrated with the situation.
Rather than think, “Oh no our relationship is falling apart because we don’t have tons of sex anymore” we think “Wow, we must have a really solid foundation because we don’t need to have sex every day in order to feel connected.” This new pace of sex has actually showed us just how bonded we are. We feel close, even without doing it all of the time.
There is really no winning this game, is there? So, the point of the game is to prove that your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore. You’re gathering evidence, trying to win your case that your partner does not feel like having sex with you anymore. If you do “win,” doesn’t that…just feel bad?
Why did we fall into this habit of having sex only at night? Perhaps it’s because a long, long time ago, people felt that sex was dirty and should be hidden. Just kidding: there are still very much to this day communities that, sadly, hold that belief. But sex isn’t dirty and shouldn’t be hidden! […]
When you’ve been with someone for a while, your sex like can become delicate—to say the least. At the beginning of a relationship, your urge to have sex is like an undeniable force. You are basically always game to cancel everything for a session in the sack. Your bodies are buzzing with sexual desire. Nothing […]
Oh no. You realize that you’ve fallen into a schedule. Just because you’ve discovered what schedule works best doesn’t mean you necessarily want to pencil sex into your calendars. So, you try to be spontaneous and break schedule…Eh. It’s just not great. You’re both tired or stressed. The schedule works for a reason.
If you had a bad day, sex is simply not happening. And you can almost only exclusively have sex after a solid eight hours of sleep