If you want to be in a healthy relationship with someone, the silent treatment is never okay.
How did they get to this place? But it happens to couples all of the time. Really. It just happens slowly, and you have to pay close attention in order to prevent it. Here are reasons communication breaks down in a relationship.
Sometimes, we have thoughts that we don’t like. Fears. Insecurities. Ugly desires. They’re just passing thoughts. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar kind of thing. You can tell your partner a thought or feeling you had that was fleeting, and he doesn’t make it out to be more if you assure him it isn’t more.
“My job sucks,” “This apartment is a disaster,” “All of our friends are moving away,” “The neighborhood is going to sh*t.” Have you been listening to yourself enough lately? And have you been saying positive things or negative things? Often, without realizing it, we just start saying the little negative thoughts we have out loud. Of course, if we didn’t have those thoughts in the first place, when we did think out loud, it wouldn’t be so negative.
If you had one of those STDs that you could treat and get rid of, you don’t need to tell your partner about that. It could lead him to believe you are far more promiscuous and irresponsible than is true. Even responsible, conservative individuals sometimes have bad luck and catch something.
I’ll have to admit that sometimes even I am guilty of these useless and even immature communication tactics. They’re not communication tactics at all, really, because the nature of true communication means saying exactly what you mean with the appropriate corresponding tone, and medium of message. But sometimes, when our emotions get the best of […]
Don’t ask yourself whose turn it is to do this or that (pick the restaurant, clean the car). Ask yourself who really needs the break today, or who has the energy level and mental capacity to do it. Don’t keep score. Be a team, and put the person most capable of the task at that moment up to it.
We always give each other the opportunity to explain ourselves. We try not to assume or state why the other person did what they did because, well, that’s very irritating. We ask why this or that seems to be happening.
Again, if you’re in a serious relationship, then your finances affect his finances. Furthermore, if you plan on getting married one day, then your debt becomes his debt. So he probably doesn’t want to just learn that you took out a major loan without even consulting him beforehand.
Would you agree that what a person brings into their marriage is heavily influenced by their familial experiences?
There are few differences between your romantic partner and your platonic best friend. You tell your platonic friend everything, but you shouldn’t tell your romantic partner everything.