So, how do you deal with an incessant interrupter? We’ve got some ways you can make your voice heard around these (insufferable) individuals.
People perceive another as more intelligent if they do some of the active listening techniques
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, or are already in one, there are some things you should absolutely be able to talk to your partner about. If you feel you can’t, it’s worth asking yourself where that’s coming from and if this is the right relationship for you.
If your partner has already made the mistake, don’t say anything. Like if he tells you about how he handled a job interview, and you feel he answered one question incorrectly. What’s the point in bringing that up now? He’ll just fixate on something he can no longer change.
Sometimes, we have thoughts that we don’t like. Fears. Insecurities. Ugly desires. They’re just passing thoughts. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar kind of thing. You can tell your partner a thought or feeling you had that was fleeting, and he doesn’t make it out to be more if you assure him it isn’t more.
“My job sucks,” “This apartment is a disaster,” “All of our friends are moving away,” “The neighborhood is going to sh*t.” Have you been listening to yourself enough lately? And have you been saying positive things or negative things? Often, without realizing it, we just start saying the little negative thoughts we have out loud. Of course, if we didn’t have those thoughts in the first place, when we did think out loud, it wouldn’t be so negative.
Nobody wants what they can get too much of. Translation: when you spoke too much, people didn’t listen at all. The sound of your voice was a cue for them to close their ears. On the flipside, when you don’t speak often, people know that when you do, you choose your words carefully and it is worth paying attention.
Because he takes a long time to mull things over and address them, when something outside of your relationship upsets him—like his job or his family—it can affect his mood for several days.
I’ll have to admit that sometimes even I am guilty of these useless and even immature communication tactics. They’re not communication tactics at all, really, because the nature of true communication means saying exactly what you mean with the appropriate corresponding tone, and medium of message. But sometimes, when our emotions get the best of […]
We always give each other the opportunity to explain ourselves. We try not to assume or state why the other person did what they did because, well, that’s very irritating. We ask why this or that seems to be happening.
If someone needs to talk to you about something important, stop what you’re doing. Don’t try to multi-task and continue to put silverware away or finish up that email. You know how irritated it makes you when you try to talk to someone who is multi-tasking.
Relationship counselors and gurus around the world will tell you that the key to any successful relationship is just a little communication. But being an effective communicator is no small feat. There’s a reason plenty of individuals feel like relationships they want to work out crash and burn in front of their eyes, and they […]