It’s hard to believe Reagan Gomez-Preston has already been married for 12 years. The 31-year-old actress wed husband DeWayne Turrentine of the rap group, Quo, in 1999 after dating for four years, and the couple now has two young children. With longevity like that, I’d say she knows a thing or two about building a happy, healthy relationship.
Juicy Magazine recently caught up with the young wife and mother at her home to see what advice she has for couples who are about to take the big leap. Here’s what she said:
Reagan Gomez-Preston: I’m not an expert and I don’t claim to be an expert. The best advice I’ve gotten is to keep people out of your business, whether that’s your mother, grandmother, sister, or just random people trying to give you advice. Sometimes women or guys want to listen to their friends over their spouse. No, you keep people out of your business and you work it out yourselves.
Juicy: But as girls, we share sex stories with our besties. Where do you draw the line?
Reagan Gomez-Preston: When you have really close girlfriends, or even guys, when they have [friends] that they’ve known since childhood, you’re used to sharing that stuff anyway. So to say that you shouldn’t, may not be totally realistic. You don’t have to tell everything. Obviously, you keep some stories just for you and your mate. If you’re used to gathering with your girls about everything, it’s not going to be totally realistic to keep things from them.
I agree with Reagan. Sometimes you just want to vent, but details you share with even your closest girlfriends about your partner and your relationship can come back to haunt you in the future. What do you think of Reagan’s advice? Is there anything you’d add for couple who is about to jump the broom?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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