Men tend to bond over common interests. Sports, poker, a brand of beer. It’s no surprise that shared taste can extend to women, and at some point it may become clear to you that two men—two close friends—have fallen for you and you like them both. Between female friends, it’s kind of faux pas to go for the same guy. Both women tend to peacefully back off. But between men, it’s a sport. And at the very least, it’s fair game. You are, that is. And they are both allowed to go for you at full force. It’s you who has the trickier job of getting what you want, without being a cold Beyotch, and without having a broken friendship on your conscience.
Here’s how to do it…
Laugh off advances
If either one of them want to invite you on a proper date, they are perfectly welcome to do so. But, if either one of them just attempt to flirt with you, or make passes at you in friendly environments like at a dinner part or out at a bar with friends, laugh it off.
Invite them both
If you’re going out with friends or hosting a party, invite both the guys directly. They each should receive a personal call or text. You don’t want to be breaking up a friendship, or making it seem like one got the unfair advantage. Until one of these guys has stepped forward and made the decision to put his friendship at risk by asking you out, don’t put him in a position that could put his friendship at risk. That’s his own decision.
Never make fun
Sorry but, if these guys are into you, they are looking for signs that you are into them. They will read you poking fun at them as you flirting. Essentially, don’t flirt. Don’t invite one of them in for flirting. You don’t want to provoke tension between the two friends.
Let them come to you
This is the overarching theme behind all of these rules. But there is a very specific reason. Two friends may like you. They may both be trying to get you BUT, they are attracted to the fact that you are a sweet, unaggressive object to be attained. If you begin to flirt with one of them, when they both know that you know they like you, then you are the woman who was okay with actively getting in between a friendship. It’s hypocritical of them, I know. But it’s how most of them think.
Always engage the one you like the most..
They are both going to try and consume most of your attention. And, as luck goes, the one who like the least will probably be the best at it. Don’t let him dominate. If the one you really like is standing quietly in the corner, turn to him and ask him a question to get him involved in the conversation. Neither guy should think he is ahead, ever, until he has grown a pair and just asked you out.
Eventually, just come clean
If the one you are not into that much thinks of sneaky ways to get you alone—say he invites you over for a dinner party and, oops, you’re the only one there—just tell him “look, I’m interested in your friend as well.” Don’t let the poor guys suffer for too long.
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