Tyrese to Black Women: “You’re Going to Independent Your Way Into Loneliness”

In an effort to get you to “jump back on this Tyrese train and be a ride-or-die forever” (those are really his words), Tyrese has broken down what it means to be an “independent woman” in the eyes of a man as he encourages black women in particular to remain open to black men. Here’s what he had to say in an interview with NecoleBitchie, over the melody to his song “Stay” from his new album “Open Invitation” nonetheless:

I want to say to all the women out there, especially black women in particular, y’all are on this independent kick. “I don’t need no man, I’m independent.” I want y’all to know the difference. There is a very big difference. Independence in the eyes of a man is when we say we want an independent woman; we don’t want a woman that’s [depending on] her […] nice body to help her get through life. You don’t wanna work, you don’t want to go to college or school, you’re not inspired to do anything on any level to try and help further yourself on any level. You just want to […] free-load… nobody wants that as a man.

Then some women are so on this independent kick they end up alone. You’re going to independent your way into loneliness. You go off and buy all the little poodles you want. “At least my dog is happy to see me when I get home everyday.” That dog or “rabbit” will never be able to replace what a real man can do for you. So stay independent, get your own, but nobody wants to be alone period. I know it’s a lot of men out here that are playing on both sides of the fence, it’s confusing, and it’s a lot of homosexuality going on out here. I get it, it’s a lot of frustration that women have. [But] there’s a lot of man’s man still left; We’re out here, we’re waiting, we’re wanting, we desire you just like you desire us. Just don’t give up on us… “Stay.” That’s my ‘Open Invitation’. Give [us] a shot at your heart.

I wanted to give Tyrese a little bit of credit because there are some women who tout their independence to the point that it becomes a huge turnoff, but that whole “homosexuality,” “we desire you just like you desire us” ramble was a major left turn on a road to nowhere.

Aside from the fact that he appears to be slightly affected by a substance of some sort in the video below, this is also just a low-budget effort to once again undo the damage he’s already done as far as his reputation with his black female fan base goes. If Tyrese wants to convince black women that there are black men out there who still want them, show it in action. This little come hither PSA isn’t cutting it.

Check out the clip below. Will you be accepting this “open invitation”? Or is he insulting black women by saying it’s our fault so many are single?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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