Is This Petty? After Dating 2 Months, They Want A Tattoo Of My Name

So I was watching Sunday’s episode of Shahs of Sunset, which I finally jumped on the bandwagon of, and in the episode, Golnesa, or ”GG,” got a tattoo of her boyfriend’s name, Shalom, on her body after two months of dating.

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While some of the gang thought it was a terrible idea (Mike said if a girl he was only seeing for two months got a tattoo of his name, he would be freaked out), others were very supportive (Asa said that even if their relationship didn’t work out, it would still be a beautiful tattoo to have — especially since Shalom does mean “peace” in Hebrew). Either way, she seemed set on it because she “could see myself with him” down the line.

She went ahead and did it, and when she showed her new body art to the person whose opinion mattered most, the man it was dedicated to, he wasn’t necessarily excited. In fact, his response was “F–k me,” not said in the sexual way.

But rushing and doing foolish things became the nature of this relationship. GG and Shalom ended up having a whirlwind engagement and quickie marriage. And just as quick as the marriage came, so did the divorce. GG ended up filing for divorce a month after they said “I do.” Speaking on the decision, she said she knew she made a mistake less than 48 hours after tying the knot.

“I wanted to throw up,” she told E! Online. “I was just thinking, ‘My dad’s going to kill me right now. And my mom is going to wake me up and then kill me again.’ It was wrong, and it’s kind of a pattern with me. I make just fast decisions in the moment, and I pay the price afterwards, and I am right now.”

But she’s not the only person to rush in most aspects of a relationship. A young woman on Lipstick Alley once shared that she was feeling uncomfortable in her two-month-old relationship because the man she was with not only said “I love you” right after they met, but he also told her that he planned on getting her name tattooed on his body.

My boyfriend is one of the sweetest guys I’ve met. He so sweet, thoughtful, and he spoils me. He’s made me into a better person. The only problem is that he wants a tattoo of my full name. We’ve only been together for two months. He even started the “I love yous” after our first date…. How can I convince him not to do this? It makes me super uncomfortable and I’m nervous that he’ll also want for me to get a tatto of his name (which isnt my thing) I’m his first serious girlfriend, and I told him to slow things down, but it’s not working. What should I do?

Tattoos for some people can just be a form of art, and in this woman’s particular case, if the guy she was dating (I have a feeling it didn’t last) was hellbent on getting a tattoo of her name, she couldn’t stop him from doing that. He’s grown. However, it always needs to be made clear that just because one party makes that decision doesn’t mean the other is going to turn around and get a tattoo as well. And it sounds like it also wouldn’t hurt to have a serious heart-to-heart conversation, not a playful, “Hey there! Slow down” chat about the fact that if someone is thinking about getting a tattoo and doing so so soon, the relationship is moving at an incredibly fast pace. In her case, “I love you” after the first date? A tattoo of your name? Gifts on gifts on gifts? Way too much.

Ok, the latter isn’t really a bad thing…

But honestly, such behaviors, while they may come from a good and loving place, are a red flag and scream needy with a side of crazy. There is no reason that two months into a relationship, one would need to go to such lengths, and honestly, I have a feeling that the tattoo would just be the beginning of the end. And even if it’s not, you know good and well that it would be used as an excuse down the line to make the non-tattooed party feel bad: “I have your name on me and this is the treatment I get?!”

Run. Or at least sit this person down and let them know their actions are already putting a strain on a relationship they seem so committed to.

People are welcome to get whatever ink they see fit. It’s a free country. But such marks don’t make a relationship any stronger. In fact, they put added pressure on it. And if things don’t work out, that’s going to be quite the awkward conversation for the next love interest…

But as always, that’s just my opinion. What say you? Is it a red flag if the person you’re dating wants to get your name tattooed on their body early on in your relationship?