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It’s not just the men outwardly protesting women’s rights by marching in the streets, or the ones who say things like, “A woman’s place is in the kitchen” who are sexist and misogynistic. But there are a lot of men who have the dangerous belief that if they don’t fit into one of those categories, that they are clearly feminist, haven’t done anything wrong, and are pretty much free to do and say what they want. Everyone should question their beliefs, their upbringing, how society has influenced their behavior and how, perhaps, some of their thoughts are, in fact, offensive and destructive. Perhaps it’s men who fall in the gray area of not outwardly sexist who are the most dangerous of all, because it’s harder to call them out for their wrongdoing. Here are offensive and sexist things men don’t even realize they say.

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You’re too pretty to work here

The implication being that the only reason a woman should have to work is if she doesn’t have her looks to carry her through life. Has it ever occurred to them that you want to work there?

 

 

 

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How has nobody made you their wife yet?

First off, nobody makes a woman their wife—we elect to be somebody’s wife. Second off, don’t assume that we care at all that we aren’t married yet. Unlike the men who say this sentence, most women don’t see their value as depleting as the years go by and they aren’t married yet.

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Don’t get drunk; men prey on drunk girls

Maybe instead of women not having to worry about how much they drink, men should go through mandatory training on sexual harassment. How about that? Because you know what? Sometimes we like to get turnt up, and we shouldn’t have to worry about it putting our safety at risk. Men certainly don’t worry about that when they drink.

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I was trying to be nice; don’t be so sensitive

Oh you mean because you told me my body looks good in this dress? Because you told me I was hot? Was that being nice? It sounds like you were objectifying me. I don’t want you to talk to me like that, and if I say that, respect it—don’t tell me I’m being rude because I don’t let you act however the hell you want.

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You know what would look good on you?

No and I didn’t ask you. I wasn’t walking around going, “I sure do hope some man finally tells me what hair cut I should have or what style of clothing I should wear.” Are you running a stylist’s studio here? No. You’re a random man on the street. Carry on about your business. You know what would look good on you? Not being sexist.