Awkward Living Situations That Prove He’s Not In A Position To Date
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I find it so funny (ironic funny not hilarious funny) that when dating, men always ask me if I live alone and when I say yes I’m rarely met with a “me too.” It’s a question I don’t even like asking because the response always kills my grown a– man joy. Nine times out of 10, I’m met with some “It’s complicated” tale about why the guy is living with everyone but himself and all I hear is “Struggle ahead.” Some non-traditional living arrangements make sense for familial needs or financial planning, but others scream I’m not really in a position to date. Like these.
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Living with his ex
They broke up two months after renewing their lease for another year and neither wants to give up the place to the other person. So they’re just riding it out for another 10 months that you’re supposed to expect no funny business could possibly go down living in the space with the woman he once shared an entire life with, and kinda still is.
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Living with his baby mama
They do it to save money and provide normalcy for the kids. You’re kind of impressed at the mature level of co-parenting, but aren’t exactly sure that’s all that’s going on. Plus, how devastated are the kids going to be when he cuts the cord, moves out, and they realize he left because of you.
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Living with his mama
Hard times happen and I;m not judging. All I’m saying is he probably doesn’t have a lot of energy to cater to you while trying to get back on his own two feet.
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Sleeping on a friend’s couch
Unless he touched down in the city at 8 am and you ran into him at the airport, there’s just no reason for this to be a normal state of living. Two weeks to a month is the max time anyone should be living on their friend’s couch and it should only be because there was some sort of setback with the place they’re moving into. Or their house caught on fire or something like that.
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Living with roommates
One roommate we can understand; three is a frat house and we’re too old for that.
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Living in a place that should be condemned
Sure, he has his own place but it’s not livable. There are live wires here, holes in the wall over there, and barely enough hot water to rinse your toothbrush. If this is all he can afford or thinks it’s acceptable to bring a woman into that kind of chaos, he’s not the one.
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Living behind bars
OK sis, we know rehabilitation is possible in prison and you don’t want to leave a brotha hanging, but just think about this. One day he’s going to be thrown back into society with the $7.86 he earned working behind bars and be expected to re-enter society fully functioning. That adjustment period is not going to be easy and he certainly will have more important things to think about than texting you back. Let him reestablish himself before dating instead of scooping him up while incarcerated.
