First Date Sexual Harassment We Often Overlook

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This is something many women don’t want to admit, and understandably so, but here goes. By the time we’ve spent hours setting up online dating profiles, filtering messages, having that preliminary phone call, making plans, getting dressed, and driving to a date, we so want the date to go well, that we turn a blind eye to some behavior that is just not appropriate.

We all do it. It’s a damn shame to put in all of that work, just to have your date prove himself a garbage person in the first ten minutes. That’s why, among many other things, sexual harassment is something we overlook on first dates. Many of us don’t even recognize it because it’s (sadly) so commonplace. But that doesn’t make it okay. Here are first date forms of sexual harassment too many of us let slide.

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You have a better body than I even imagined

It’s flattering, at first. But on second thought, it means he has spent a lot of time thinking about your body and finds it completely okay to say so. It’s not the same as “you’re beautiful.”

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