What It Means To Be Truly Selfless In A Relationship

The first step to building a life-long relationship is, of course, finding someone with whom you have a blast! After that, you try to make sure you have the same values. You can try to draw out the details of those things, and make it more complicated, but really, if you ask most couples why they either fight or get along, it boils down to whether or not they enjoy one another’s company, and agree on the fundamentals of life.

Once you find that, there is this third step that is a bit more tricky. In fact, it’s the reason that relationships become turbulent after the honeymoon phase, or after couples have children. That third step is being selfless. If you both commit to being so, you can have a relationship that always feels loving and supportive. Being selfless, in its essence, means putting the good of the relationship above the good of your personal, selfish wants. But it means so much more when put to the test. Here is what it truly means to be selfless in a relationship.

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You don’t remember your good deeds

You don’t keep track of the kind things you do for your partner so you can later throw them in his face when you want something.