Why Some People Can’t See Your Value (And How To Deal)

I’m sure we’ve all done a lot for a person who didn’t appreciate us at one time or another. They were negative when you wanted to be positive. They blocked you out when you tried to let them in. You made yourself available, and yet, that wasn’t enough. They wanted more and more from you. Why would they mistreat you?

The trouble with trying to find a reason is that sometimes it’s just not about you. Maybe they’re hurt, insecure, and battling with issues that don’t have anything to do with you. If you’ve found yourself dealing with the following people, distance yourself and build yourself up instead of staying around people who try to bring you down.

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They’re in a Bad Place

Birds of a feather tend to flock together. And sometimes people in a negative place only want negative people around them.

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Consider It a Compliment

You’re not going to be everyone’s flavor. And if negativity is what they’re into right now, it’s a compliment that you’re on the list of people they don’t want to be affiliated with.

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They’re Struggling to Value Their True Self

Some people are afraid of letting others in because they’re afraid you will discover that they’re not what they’ve been pretending to be.

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Stay at an Arm’s Length Emotionally

Don’t invest time in someone who can’t invest it back into you. In cases like this, it might be best to give them the space to find themselves while you find someone better suited for you.

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They Want You to Dim Your Light

Some people aren’t happy unless they’re the center of attention or doing the best. When you come up in life, they just can’t take it and become distant.

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Shine Your Light

Never diminish who you are and what you have to offer to allow someone else to feed someone else’s ego. Know your value.

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You’re Stepping on Their Toes

Aristotle said, “The only way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, do nothing and be nothing.” When you live large, take a stand and live life with a point of view, you’re going to ruffle some feathers.

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Be Encouraged

Don’t change. Seek out people who understand and accept you for you.

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Their Lives Are Too Full

Filled with other women, career goals, family members who fill up their time and more. There isn’t space in their life to make time for you.

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Fill up Your Own Plate

Do so with things that make you happy and people happy to have you around.

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You Can’t Give Them What They Need

Maybe your boss works best with a yes man who is happy to be a follower, but you’re an independent thinker with your own ideas to contribute. Some friends need someone who will always listen but struggle to be there when you have your own drama going on.

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Find a Better Fit

Somewhere there’s an employer looking for someone to be an active part of the team or a friend who likes to give advice and listen as well as get it and be heard.

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Your Worth Has Changed

People grow in all directions. And one of the consequences of not staying on the same level forever is that some people get left behind or climb ahead.

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Don’t Let It Get to You

Don’t let people upset you with their negativity or allow it to rob you of a victory you earned.

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