Subtle Ways You Constantly Put Yourself Down
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People don’t always realize the power of words. You may not think that you do much harm by putting yourself down because just because you say something bad about yourself, doesn’t make that bad thing true—right? Well. Yes and no. When you say negative things about yourself, you start to push your own ideas of yourself on to other people. But what’s more is that, when you hear yourself say negative things about yourself out loud, those ideas slip even deeper into your subconscious, and come out in your behavior. In other words, putting yourself down can be a form of a self-fulfilling prophecy. What’s worse is that this behavior can attract the wrong people. Like men looking for women with low self-esteem who they feel they can control and mold. It can also attract sad, unstable people because they believe you’re just as unstable. A lot of people don’t even realize they put themselves down.But if you’re regularly saying the following things you’re doing just that.
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You say, “It’s not that big of a deal” a lot
Anytime somebody finds something that you’ve done amazing, you say, “It’s not a big deal.” Then you list other people who’ve done the same thing, but better and faster.
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You diminish your career accomplishments
When someone congratulates you on your career accomplishments, you just list all of the bigger things you still need to do.
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You say all the ways your outfit went wrong
If somebody compliments you on the way you look, you go into a long story about how these aren’t even the pants you wanted to wear, but you no longer fit into the ones you wanted to wear, and these were the only ones that matched your boring tops.
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You excuse people who wrong you
If somebody bumps into you, you say, “It’s okay. Honestly, I’m taking up too much space.” If somebody is an hour late for dinner, you say, “It’s okay. I chose a bad time for dinner.”
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You criticize the things that you like
If people find out about your interests and hobbies, you start putting those down and listing all of the reasons why they’re silly.
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You’re shy to suggest an activity
When a group of people, or your date, discusses what you should do for the evening, you never speak up. If people ask for your suggestion, you always preface it with, “It’s a stupid idea. Nobody will want to do it.”
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You constantly apologize when you cook
When you make dinner for a date, you make apologies for every little thing. You apologize that things are taking too long, you apologize for not getting better wine, you apologize for adding too much salt.
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You get long, “It’s not you, it’s me” speeches
Anytime somebody breaks up with you, they give you a long, “It’s not you, it’s me” speech. And they give you lots of reasons why it’s not you. They want to make sure you understand it’s not you.
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Friends call, “Just to check on you” a lot
You get a lot of calls from friends with concerned voices saying, “I was just checking in…seeing how that insert life event like doctor’s visit here went.” They worry that you don’t feel anybody thinks you’re important.
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You won’t let people celebrate/promote you
You will not let people toast to your promotion, or throw a dinner in honor of your new apartment.
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It makes you nauseous to compliment yourself
If someone asks you to say something nice about yourself, you just cannot do it. If you do, you tack on an insult at the end.
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You don’t tell people it’s your birthday
You never tell anybody when it’s your birthday. Having an entire day dedicated to celebrating you makes you uncomfortable.
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You’ve suggested someone else for the job you want
Even though you really wanted a job, you found yourself suggesting why somebody else would be good for it. Your boss even offered it to you, but you said somebody else would be better.
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