Signs You Talk Way Too Much On First Dates - Page 18

Even if you’re not self-absorbed, you’ll come off as an egoist if you talk too much on dates. It’s unfortunate, really, because the true reason you’re gabbing so much is probably because you’re nervous, you feel insecure, you’re afraid of being boring, or you just want to make sure you share everything there is to know about yourself. Those are all valid feelings and concerns. But ultimately, if you address them by literally never giving your date a chance to speak, you’ll have no chance at figuring out if you are compatible. Why? Because you won’t learn anything about him. But the problem could be that you may not even know you’re doing it! So, here are 20 signs you talk way too much on first dates.

He keeps trying to feed you

Your date keeps asking if you want a bite of this or that, if you want more bread, if you need sweetener for your iced tea if you need a different knife for your steak. He believes the only way to possibly get you to stop talking is by getting food in your mouth.

Image Source: Shutterstock

He’s grateful when the server comes over

Your date looks remarkably relieved when a server shows up asking if everything is okay, or when a busboy comes over asking if he can clear anything. He’s just grateful for a break from your chatter.

He’s drinking a lot

He didn’t seem like a drinker at first. In fact, your date stated that he was not a drinker—but he’s asked that the server “Keep ‘em coming” regarding his Manhattans.

He doesn’t ask you questions

If your date doesn’t ask you any questions, it’s probably because he doesn’t need to—you’re busy answering every single question a person could possibly think to ask you.

Image Source: Shutterstock

He taps his foot a lot

When people tap their foot, it usually means that they are anxious to leave a situation but feel trapped. Like, by your never-ending talking.

Image Source: Shutterstock

He tries to talk to other people in the restaurant

Your date seems very interested in asking the table next to you how their meal is, and asking the server what they think about the weather. He’s hoping you will stop talking if he starts talking to somebody else.

Image Source: Shutterstock

He keeps going to the bathroom

He just needs a break from the sound of your voice before his brain explodes from information overload.

Corbis

The second date isn’t conducive to talking

If by some miracle, a man asks you on a second date after all the talking you did, the date isn’t one where you can strike up conversation. Most of your second dates happen to be at movies or silent exhibitions.

Shutterstock

You don’t know much about him

You leave most of your first dates thinking, “Hmm. I don’t know about him. He didn’t say much…”

Image Source: Shutterstock

You repeat yourself

If you repeat yourself often, and your date already knows the ending to your story, you definitely talk too much. You’ve spoken so much that you’ve run out of new material.

Image Source: Shutterstock

He makes a joke like, “Don’t forget to breathe when you eat.”

You won’t even stop talking to eat. But your date really hoped you would so he pretends to care about your well-being when he says, “Swallow and then talk so you can survive this date.”

Shutterstock

You are hypersensitive to the opinions of others

If you can honestly say that you’re very sensitive to the opinions of others, then you probably talk too much. People who are insecure often do a lot of explaining and backpedaling.

Shutterstock

You hear, “I don’t mean to interrupt…” a lot

If your dates have to start every sentence with, “I don’t mean to interrupt,” then that means you never give them a natural opening to speak.

Shutterstock

He seems tired at the end of the date

If your dates seem thoroughly exhausted by the end of your time together, it might be because you maxed out their listening abilities.

You feel tired at the end of your dates

If you feel tired after your dates (or maybe you have a soar throat) you probably exhausted yourself by talking the entire time.

Image Source: Shutterstock

You feel like you were a hit

If you walk away from every date recounting every hilarious story you told, and feeling very proud of the way you portrayed yourself through your anecdotes, you probably talk too much. Listeners walk away from dates thinking about what a hit the other person was.

Corbis

Your friends keep telling you to relax

Would you say that the most common piece of first date advice your friends give you is to “Relax more?” That’s a polite way of saying, “Don’t talk so much. Let the other person talk, too.”

Healthybreakfastfoods.info

Your dates never want dessert or a second drink

Do your dates never ever want to order dessert? In fact, do they signal for the check pretty quickly?

Image Source: Shutterstock

Your date asks if you ever meditate or do yoga

Your date asks you if you partake in any calming practices that help “slow you down.” Yikes.