Lies Women Tell Themselves When They Date Men With Girlfriends

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If you’re ever dated a guy with a girlfriend…well, first of all, let’s hope by now that you know that is not okay. Let’s hope by now that you saw a therapist to figure out why you could be so disrespectful of another woman, and why you go after taken men. Okay. So if that’s all taken care of, then you can probably look back and realize that you told yourself these lies. The only way a woman can sustain a relationship (if you can call it that) with a taken man is by doing a lot of lying. Lying to her friends, lying to her family, and lying to herself. Since there is actually no logical, acceptable or moral answer to, “Why would you date a man with a girlfriend?” the only probably answers are all lies. So here are 15 lies women who date guys with girlfriends tell themselves.

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I must be amazing to lure him in

Mmmm no. Your morals are lacking, your judgment is blurred, and your ego has clearly been so bruised that you need to steal a man to feel better about yourself. That’s not amazing—that’s just an easy target for a man who is bored in his relationship.

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Maybe I’ll change his ways

Oh yeah. Because we all know the way to get someone to stop doing something is to facilitate them doing it as much as possible. Think about it; for the time being, when this guy is willing to cheat, he gets rewarded with sex. Why would he ever stop that behavior, even if he was dating you?

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A lot of movies start this way

Yes. Movies. And if we can be honest, it was messed up for those characters to cheat on their partners or date people in relationships. Lights and cameras don’t make fidelity romantic.

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He doesn’t want to hurt her; he’s sensitive

That’s the lie that he tells himself about why he hasn’t left her. The truth is that he doesn’t want to give up the conveniences of a relationship, and he’s too much of a coward to admit his wrongdoings. But it’s easier for him to tell himself that he’s sparing her feelings. And it’s easier for you to believe that.

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At least he’s a relationship person

No, he’s not. Simply slapping the “In a relationship” status on Facebook and sleeping in the same bed as someone every night does not make someone a relationship person. Honestly and fidelity makes someone a relationship person, and there are no two ways about it.

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It’s cool I’m keeping my options open

Sure you are. So, if someone were to look through your texts, they wouldn’t find that, on dates with other guys, you texted the one with the girlfriend the whole time, and ended up booty calling him later? Yup. It sounds like you’re really giving dating other guys the old college try.

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They’ve been emotionally distant for a while

Does his girlfriend know that? Men love to say that the relationship, “Has been over for a long time but it’s just not over.” Over is one of those words that’s kind of like dead—something either is, or it isn’t. And darling, that relationship isn’t over.

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He just needs to be sure I’ll be there

Oh yes. He’s the victim here. He’s just so afraid of being alone that he is testing your loyalty before he leaves his girlfriend for you. That’s a lovely sentiment. It’s also a load of crap. He is loving having two honeys.

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I’m not even ready to be serious

Oh. Okay. Well, so long as you don’t care if this becomes serious, then it’s okay. Nevermind that you’re facilitating cheating. You’d never seriously date a taken man, so it’s TOTALLY CHILL….not.

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She’s a crazy b-tch, and he’s afraid to leave

Even if that’s true—even if this woman would slash some tires in a breakup—that’s no excuse for this entire situation. Actually, you should probably ask yourself what it says about the guy that he’d date somebody like that. And why you’re not concerned about your own safety.

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I’m the one he really respects

Yes. You go ahead and tell yourself that as he takes her on vacation, takes her as the plus one to weddings, invites her home for the holidays, and spends the whole night in her bed. Meanwhile, you guys just had sex in his car and then he made you hide in the back seat.

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He’s afraid to admit what he wants

You may tell yourself that you’re this guy’s soulmate, and it’s too scary for him to admit that. Even if that were true, then that would mean he had commitment issues. Oh, wait…he already does. Yikes, this got complicated.

It’s just one of those terrible timing things

No. It’s one of those immature, impatient, sociopathic things. Millions of people are capable of realizing one person isn’t right for them, and properly leaving that person before moving onto a new person. Why should you or this guy be exempt?

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It’s not like I’m the one cheating

For sure. And how are you sleeping at night, by the way?

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He’ll leave her when she’s more stable

There is never a good time to leave somebody. Ask all of the people who have gone through breakups. None of them will say, “Well it was just the perfect time to end it. It was super easy. There was nothing inconvenient about it.” He isn’t doing it because he doesn’t have balls—not because he hasn’t found the right time.