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Every pregnant woman, or woman hoping to become pregnant, deserves to know the truth about labor. Your doula might talk about it as if it’s all fairy dust and unicorn songs, and your delivery coach might pump you up with pep talk that you’re sure will override the discomfort of delivery. But don’t let either of them fool you—there’s more to it. The fact that childbirth is such a life-altering, and exhausting experience might be the reason that not enough women pass on information about it—they’re usually fawning over their baby or sleeping off medication in the hours after labor, and when they come to, they’re far too busy to take down notes about the experience. But here are some myths about childbirth that must be busted.

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Myth: 20 hours of labor is 20 hours of labor

Any time you upset your mother she might remind you that she was in labor with you for 20 hours so you better respect. And she’s right—you should respect your mama, but she is probably misconstruing some facts about labor for you.

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Truth: It’s not all contractions

Labor covers the time a woman feels her first contraction to the time that the baby arrives. Women may sit in the hospital for 20 hours (or several days!) waiting for the baby to come after that first contraction, however, several hours can go by without a single contraction.

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Myth: Contractions are horrific

In movies, when a woman says she’s having a contraction, she looks incredibly pained. She probably heels over, grabbing her stomach and squinting her eyes. Two people rush to her side to help her sit down. They look just awful, but that’s not the whole picture.

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Truth: Contractions vary

Some contractions just feel like bad gas or period cramps. Contractions can vary in intensity and they don’t progress in a simple, predictable manner (like better to worse). During several days of labor, some contractions might feel like somebody is ripping your intestines out, and some might feel like an incoming fart.

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Myth: You have to witness all the gore

A lot of mothers prepare for childbirth by watching those old school, high school health class “miracle of life” videos. You know, the ones where doctors hold up squiggling infants covered in all manner of goop and blood. And they get a nice glamour shot of that recently obliterated vagina. These videos don’t exactly make women excited for their own birth.

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Truth: You can see as much or as little as you want

Your doctor will not force you to watch anything. If you’d like, he can put a mirror at the end of the bed and you can witness it all! But if you say you’d rather look away, and just be handed your baby once he’s all cleaned off, that’s fine, too.

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Truth: Things can get worse after

It’s possible you’ll tear down there during birth, but if you had an epidural, you won’t even feel it! When you will feel it, however, is when you pee through your stitches the following days. There’s no denying that that hurts.

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Truth: You can bleed a lot post-delivery

You might release a significant amount of blood for up to six weeks after giving birth. You’ll notice a significant increase in bleeding after you have been sitting or laying down for a long time, and you may see some big clots down there.

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Myth: All the vaginal damage is internal

You probably know that you’ll be pretty, err, loose down there for a while after birth. Your doctor will even recommend that you refrain from intercourse for weeks or months after delivery. But don’t expect all the damage to be tucked away inside of your vaginal walls.

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Myth: You forget all of the pain

We’ve all seen those hysterical scenes in which a mother says, “I want another baby…” and her partner says, “After giving birth to the last one, you said you’d never go through that again!” to which the mother says, “I don’t remember it being all that bad…” This has lead many to believe that some magic powers make you forget about the pain of childbirth.