Things Our Parents Never Taught Us About Sex
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Chances are, having “the sex talk” is just as awkward for a parent as it is for their kid. But that’s no excuse for parents to avoid talking about sex with their children and going deeper than the stereotypical line “You shouldn’t be having sex but if you are, wear a condom.” If anything, protection to prevent pregnancies and against STDs is what parents stress most. Because of that, a lot of what we end up learning about sex comes from our friends, things we’ve read in books, online or saw on TV, and of course, through good old-fashioned trial and error. But together, we can collectively work to take the taboo out of sex. Women especially still deal with certain stigmas and myths when it comes to sex, but here’s the kicker: None of us should feel bad about wanting or enjoying sex. Being sexually empowered and making smart, healthy decisions is key. If our parents told us some of the following things about sex, it might have saved us a lot of stress, embarrassment, heartache and time.
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Use Lube
Ain’t no shame in the lube game. Lubricant can make for smoother, more enjoyable sex and using it says absolutely nothing about you (or your partner’s) abilities.
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Ask for What You Want
You should never be afraid to vocalize your sexual desires and needs to your partner. They can’t read your mind. Communicating will ensure better sex.
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Tinkle
Always urinate after sex to avoid a UTI or infection. This should be high on the list of things our parent(s) or guardian(s) should have told us about sex.
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Reciprocation
Unless you and your partner want it that way, you shouldn’t be doing all the work in between the sheets. The best sex is about mutual giving.
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Multiple Partners
Do you ever feel like you’re being set up for failure when asked about the number of sexual partners you’ve had? There’s no right or wrong answer, but if your partner feels a certain way about your response – i.e., judges you – that’s completely on them, not you.
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Sex Toys
There’s nothing wrong with owning a sex toy, and if your partner thinks otherwise, that’s just silly. There’s no reason for them to be jealous of it, whether you use a sex toy on your own or with them, and using one solo won’t spoil you or make things difficult when you have sex.
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Oral Sex
If your partner expects you to give them oral sex but won’t do the same for you for whatever reason, you deserve better.
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Solo Rider
Masturbation is a wonderful thing. Not only can it help improve your sex life, but it can ease body aches and menstrual cramps as well as relieve stress.
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“Good Good”
How are things outside the bedroom? Just because the sex is great and you’re doing the absolute most in bed doesn’t mean your relationship will stand the test of time.
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It Should Be Fun
Sex should be fun, mind-blowing, engaging…and on and on. So, have fun!
