Is Dating a Man With Female Friends Bad For Your Health?

Okay, so it’s not literally bad for your health like that. But it is indeed a stressful endeavor to take on when you decide to date a man who has not just a few female friends, but many. Been there, done that, and I wouldn’t recommend it. But hey, there are some fantastic guys out there who have female friendships that are innocent. Good luck finding those fellas though. While it’s nice to see man be respectful and caring of women and get in touch with his sensitive or feminine side, it’s a shame when it’s shared with a bit too many outside parties if you know what I mean. Not all guys with female friends should come with a caution sign, because as long as they’re honest and up front about them then you at least know what you’re getting into. But there are some men that should. Here’s a list of things you might have to worry about when you fall for a man with more girlfriends than you.

He Might Need Too Much Attention You Just Can’t Give

Maybe it’s an insecurity thing. Just as some people don’t feel right if they don’t have a crowd of people around laughing at their jokes and making them feel better about themselves, there are some men that feel something is missing if they aren’t getting a wealth of positive attention from women. It feeds their ego. It’s nice to be admired from time to time by the opposite sex, even when you’re in a relationship, but when it seems like you’re seeking that more than tangible friendship from these women, then we might have a problem. I asked my ex why he didn’t have many male friends, and he said, “I’ve just always had a lot more female friends. I feel more comfortable with them.” I wonder why…

You Might Need to Keep an Eye on His Girlfriends

Let’s just be real. You might know any and everything about your man and trust him like no other, but chances are, you don’t know his female peers like that. You don’t really know the type of conversations they have and what she might do when you’re not around. Paranoid? Possibly. But you just might be a fool if you didn’t think some flirtations aren’t going on between your man and his homegirls at all. And even if a woman doesn’t flirt with a man because she wants him, she still might be all in his face because, well, flirting is fun, and some women like to be ogled and made to feel super Hot. Yep, flirting is indeed fun, but that doesn’t mean it’s right to do with your boyfriend.

He’ll Be an Ace at Solving Everyone’s Problems But Yours

What I mean by that is, he might wind up being the go-to guru for helping his female friends with their issues with guys, and because of that, he’ll think nothing needs to be fixed in his own relationship with you. My ex was like a black Dr. Phil to his sistagirls, playing peacemaker for a few of them and their disgruntled boos. But when I would tell him I was unhappy with something, half the time he would just say what I wanted to hear so the conversation could be over. And if he does realize when you guys might have problems, he might seek advice from his girlfriends about what to do or what’s right. And now all of a sudden, some other woman winds up being an expert on your relationship. It happens!

The Girlfriends Might Multiply Like Roaches

When your relationship starts, he might have like two or three really good female friends. But most women run with other women, so he’s bound to meet a few of their associates, impress them, and then BOW! There’s girlfriend number 15. If you’re lucky, he might tell you about them. But if not,  most of the new ones you won’t know about, half of them you won’t ever really get to see. But walk around your neighborhood together and watch a bunch of random chicks say “whatsup” and I bet you’ll see what I mean.

You Might Not Get Along With His Female Friends

It’s absolutely fine for a man to have female friends if you are well aware of them. It’s even better if you all hang out together from time to time and you and his female counterpart get along pretty well. Granted, you don’t have to be her BFF, but you should be making your presence known while being polite and pleasant at the same time. But there might be times where you and his friends just don’t click. Drama from an outside party that becomes an issue inside your relationship is not cool, because chances are, he’ll do everything in his power to try and play peacemaker. Be aware, you won’t get along with everyone, and if you can’t click with his female friends, you’re going to have some extra bumpy roads to get over, lady.