20 Signs Your Date Might Be An Alcoholic - Page 11

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When you’re on your first few dates with someone, it’s normal that you both want a drink or two to loosen up. Even if you don’t need alcohol to relax around a total stranger with whom you’re hoping to fall in love (pressure, much?), alcohol is still a big part of a lot of dates. Your restaurant probably has a special on sangria pitchers or some fun whiskey flight paired with a cheese board. You also want to see the best in your date, because your friends say you’re too critical. For these reasons, it can be hard to spot a man with a drinking problem within the first few dates. But you want to walk away from a relationship with an alcoholic before you’re too invested because any sort of addict cannot fully emotionally support another human being until he’s kicked his own problem. Here are 20 early warning signs that your date is an alcoholic.

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He won’t go somewhere without alcohol

Before going to any restaurant, he calls to ask if they have alcohol. If they don’t have it, he’s really intent on finding a place that does even if you really wanted to go to that restaurant.

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He drinks a lot on all first dates

Drinking a little too much on the first date is an accident; doing it on the first three dates can be a sign of dependency.

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He has a lot of lost memories

A lot of his stories end in, “Then I don’t remember what happened. We got so drunk.” In fact, most of his stories end that way, and sometimes he forgets pretty important details.

He won’t stop when you ask him to

If you ask him to cool it on the drinks, saying you’d like to get to know each other sober, he won’t cool it and he gets mad.

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He explains each drink

After ordering a drink, he makes some excuse for it like, “It goes well with this appetizer” or “It’s very low in alcohol it’s no big deal.”

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He’ll max out his cards on drinks

If his credit card is declined after he tries to order a drink, he tries several more cards. He’ll just take out cash if he has to.

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He’ll spend way too much on cabs

He will pay for a $100 cab to a place that’s very far away just so he can drink, rather than just stay sober for one night.

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He’s completely different after one drink

His personality after a drink is night and day. When he’s sober, he’s reserved and has self-control, but when he has just one drink he becomes more reckless.

He is anxious until he’s had a drink

He cannot focus on the conversation until he has a drink in his hand. When his first drink gets near empty, he becomes anxious again until he can order a second one.

He lies about drinking

He tells you he only drinks once a week, but you go on three dates in a week and he gets wasted each time and tells you he’s hungover every other day of the week after.

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He steers all dates to bars

He wants to turn most dates into party nights. When you’re at dinner, he’s receiving texts from his friends who are drinking down the street and convinces you to go there.

He’ll risk driving

If he is willing to put his life, your life, or anybody’s life at risk so that he can drink, he has a problem.

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He’s lost jobs because of alcohol

He’s lost several jobs or gotten in trouble at jobs for being drunk at work, missing work because he was drunk, or being hungover at work.

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And he thinks it’s funny

He doesn’t think the fact that he’s lost jobs over drinking is a problem, and he doesn’t think it’s a reason to quit drinking.

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Drinking always ends in blackout

Once he starts drinking he cannot stop. You’ve never heard him say on his own, “That’s enough for me tonight.”

He calls and apologizes after each date

After each date, he calls and apologizes for the way he behaved. It’s almost as if you were on a date with one guy, and a different guy (the sober version) has to clean up the first guy’s mess.

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Your server looks nervous that he’s back

Servers and bartenders at restaurants give your date a look of recognition, and look nervous over serving him.

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He loses his phone a lot

People who constantly get blackout drunk lose or break their phones constantly. If your date regularly takes days to respond to a text because he lost his phone yet again, he may have a drinking problem.

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He loses his credit card a lot

He never has his card on him because he always got so drunk at a bar that he forgot to close his tab.