Men don’t understand women and women don’t understand men; this is a fact. Part of the lack of understanding between the two is how we communicate. So much important information gets lost in translation, such as if you tell a man “I love you” and he responds with a laugh and starts telling you how you don’t really love him. He’s stalling and he’s trying to turn it on you because he’s not about to tell you that he loves you because you’re bat Isht crazy and you’ve only known him for a month.
Let’s get into a game of what he said vs. what he meant:
1. She’s just a friend
Code word for “I’d hit that”. Or it might be, “we just mad cool” (insert NY accent), no matter the choice of words he’d probably hit that. Now if a man says someone is like his sister that’s probably a genuine friend. We don’t just throw the sister term around all willy nilly.
2. You can see other people
The ‘you can see other people’ line is tricky. It’s typically a cover up for “I’m seeing other people”. Often dudes still want access to the cookie (new term that sounds better than box) but don’t want to come right out and say it. So he puts it on you with the “I don’t mind if you see other people” line. When you respond, “Are you going to see other people” he says “I’m not seeing anyone else.” It’s a lie.
3. I don’t care
A man saying I don’t care might be one of the most misunderstood statements in the lexicon of men/women conversations. Women over-think “I don’t care”. Does “I don’t care” mean he really does care and he’s testing me? Does it mean that he doesn’t care about my feelings and he’s really just not that into me? I understand their confusion because sometimes men take I don’t care a step further and say IDGAF. Typically he’s referring to the topic at hand and he’s not saying that he doesn’t care about you or your feelings. You may take his insensitivity to your feelings that way but that’s not necessarily what he was trying to project. Follow up his “I don’t care” with, “what exactly is it that you don’t care about”. You must be clear.
4. The condom broke
Maybe I’m the only one who has used this before. It’s a stall tactic for when you get in some superb cookie and prematurely let loose if you know what I mean. It’s quite a dirty trick. It totally upsets the mood because now everyone is worried. But in the midst of the worry it buys you time to get a new condom and get back up. TMI I know.
5. Good morning
If you’re getting good morning texts or good morning phone calls from a dude what that really means is you’re on that brothers mind heavy. Couple that with some goodnight text/calls and shoot you might have a new boo!. Unless you’re dealing with “Mr. Player” most guys who are trying to be the person you speak to before you head to sleep and the first voice you hear in the morning are pretty into you.
6. You could be the one
You’re not the one, so run fast, he’s bullShyteting you! You are the one is more like it, but if you could be the one well hell so could the girl who works at Jamba Juice. Don’t fall for this indecisive terminology. We’re good at playing the middle, allowing women to draw their own conclusions. You start thinking we like you more than we do, which gets us more perks. Next thing you know, you’re doing all the duties of a wife but you’ll forever be a girlfriend.
