We love WE TV’s “Bridezilla”. But we came to love it even more when the show featured, the self-proclaimed “Black Barbie” Porsha. We couldn’t help but laugh at her antics. Trying to sabotage her fiancé’s bachelor party, calling her bridesmaids hairy beasts and cussing out her fiancé’s baby mama the day before the wedding were just a few of the scenarios caught on camera. Madame Noire sat down with this former Bridezilla to discuss her marriage, her fans and the lace-front seen around the world. Check out the recording of the interview as you read along.
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How did you decide that you were going to do the show?
During the process of me planning, I started cutting people because nobody was helping me with the wedding at all. So I started cutting my sisters, I started cutting my mom. And they were like ‘we’re going to sign you up for “Bridezilla”. My oldest sister was like ‘let’s sign her up, let’s sign her up.’ I had no idea that they did it. And like six months later they called me and I was screaming and hollering because I couldn’t believe that the show had called me.
Why do you think your sister and mother thought that you were a Bridezilla?
I was screaming. I was hollering. I was throwing stuff. I was going off on people. Everything. They said I truly fit the characteristics of a Bridezilla.
Would you say you’re like that all the time or would you say the wedding really stressed you out and that was just a one-time thing?
As far as the shank (?) and the prank phone calls and stuff like that, that’s normal. I think the cursing and me physically attacking them I think that was all the wedding.
Were you nervous about how you were going to be portrayed on television?
I was not embarrassed at all. I’m heavyset. Whatever was going to show was going to show.
You’re still cool with your family and friends that were in your wedding?
Yeah. We went out this weekend. We all are still close.
Knowing what you put your bridesmaids through, would you be willing to endure that for someone else?
Yeah I would. It was funny!
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How would you say married life is so far?
Married life… I would say it’s challenging. I’ve been hearing the first year is the hardest year. So far we’re doing great but I do think that I’m being tested a few times and I’m about to ham on this man.
How do you feel like you’re being tested?
You know like when we just had a major argument. It’s like people putting stuff in his ear. Telling him stuff. Stuff about Facebook, something that I’m writing or something that I’m saying. You want to know, ask me. Don’t listen to people in the streets. You want to see my Facebook page, I’ll pull it up and I’ll show it to you and you can judge for yourself.
Planning the wedding and being a part of the show, what was the biggest lesson you learned either in life, about yourself, whatever?
I did think, after I saw the show that I cursed too much. I really don’t cuss that much at all. I was like Oh my gosh I didn’t know I cussed that much. It really wasn’t a difference to me because people, the viewers, would say that I was being mean or being hateful but my seven friends know how I truly am and actually enjoyed watching the show. Except for me cussing a lot.
What feedback have you gotten from the fans?
I probably have 1,000 or 2,000 that hate me and I probably have a million that love me. People have found me on Facebook, they have found me on Twitter. They tweet my quotes during the show, “busted and disgusted” “bust your head til the white meat”. I sat on Twitter, I think one day last week, all day long because I was off and I was sitting at home and I literally had, over time, a million people tweet me stuff. And I was like oh my gosh I did not know that I touched so many people by doing this show. A lot of people said that it was the best one that they’ve ever seen. It was just very, very entertaining. I’m a fan of the show myself and I watch it and I never got laughs off of it. And people are saying that it was very humorous that they loved it. Like I told you when I went out of town this weekend a girl was screaming and hollering because she couldn’t believe it was me. You know I kind of like this lifestyle. I could get used to this.
Do you have any plans to continue being in the public eye?
I used to be in acting and drama and a lot of people that I deal with on a daily basis, because I work at a postal facility where people come in. You should hear what they say, this is way before “Bridezilla”, I can actually see you on TV, I can see you as the next Queen of Comedy and then for me to be on TV, I was shocked that a lot of people watched it and really liked me and were touched.
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There have been studies that prove that black women are more comfortable with their bodies, even if they’re overweight by mainstream standards. What do you think that is?
I’m speaking for myself on this. This is the biggest I have ever been. And actually I do have a problem with my weight because I feel like I lack exercise. I would like to be smaller than what I am. But I do know a couple of people that are heavyset and they are fine with it. Because I’m like this right here, just because you are skinny and just because you wear what you wear, it doesn’t mean that you look good in it. I’ve seen skinny people and they had on a cute outfit but it looked bad on them. Versus a big woman, it’s showing stuff. It’s showing the curves, the butt, the angle and it actually looks better on big people than it does on little people. But the only thing that bothers me about little clothes and big clothes is when you have to pay extra for bigger size clothes.
There’s a rumor that men in the south prefer women who are bigger. Do you think that’s true?
My husband loves big women. Every girl that he has dated has been big boned. And actually every woman that he has dated is bigger than me. He doesn’t even consider me big, he said I’m just right. His baby mama, the one that I was talking about on the show, she is huge. Like for real, she’s like huge. He likes big woman and he is just so in love. That’s just him, he’s always liked big women. He said we’re soft, it’s always something to grab on. That what he says, he says he just like big women.
But he’s skinny and when he lays on me, his bones actually hurt me. I am not playing. I told him the other day, ‘you need to gain some weight because I can feel every bone in your body. And it actually hurts.’ He’s laying on me and I can see his bones!
Does he want to gain weight or does he just like for his women to be big?
He cannot…This man will eat you out of house and a home. No lie. I’m telling you, he can eat. Where does it go? I don’t know. If I eat it, I’m gaining weight. He’s been skinny all his life.
So he doesn’t want you to lose any weight?
I don’t know why because when we first got together, I wasn’t this size. I’ve gained a lot of weight since he and I have been together. At one point I was trying to work out and lose weight and you could start to see the change and he said I was going to get big-headed and want to wear the little stuff and I was going to eventually leave him. That’s what he said.
I told him I think it’s in the best interest for me to lose weight just to be better about me, about my stuff, about my self-esteem. I’m not saying I want to be a size 6 but I want to at least get down to a 14 or 16. I don’t want to be little.
Why do you want to get down to a 14 or 16?
That’s what I’m used to. Sometimes when I go out the house or go out to a club or something I won’t go because the way my outfit looks. I just get real depressed. You know like, ‘God I got to lose some more weight, this doesn’t look right.
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Did you have any reservations when they told you were going to be on the show, like I don’t want to be on the show, looking like this?
Oh no. Not at all. I was just worried about having my hair done. They talked about lace-front some kind of bad. Oh my God! This one girl tweeted me and said, “Next time you get a lace-front, you need to cut it. “ I said, ‘Actually it was cut. It was brand new. This stripper I had, he knocked it off. I’m talking about knocked it off. I said I had just bought that lace-front and I was going to get my wear and tear out of it. And the reason why I didn’t have it glued down because the wedding was like in two days. You know what I told her, ‘That lace front made me famous boo.”
Why was it important that you hair look right?
You can’t go on TV with your hair looking any kind of way! I just had to make sure that my hair was done. I didn’t care about my clothes, I didn’t care about what I wore. Cause my sisters they were G’ed up every day on camera. I’m like, “ya’ll know ya’ll frontin’, ya’ll know ya’ll don’t dress like this in real life, every day. These folks are going to know ya’ll stuntin’. I had on my jeans, my little t-shirt. I didn’t care. I was just being myself. As long as my hair was fixed.
Well you know black women and their hair, it’s important.
Okay!
You can catch re-runs of Porsha’s episode on WE TV today at 9pm (8 central) and Sunday, July 24th at 12:30 pm and 7:00 pm. If you can’t seem to get enough of Mrs. Porsha, you can follow her on Twitter @DaRealPorsha
