15 Dating Trends & Habits To Leave In 2015
15 Dating Trends & Habits To Leave In 2015
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Dating has become so complicated that it is now, more than ever, trial and error–mainly error. The trends keep coming, and the bad habits continue forming, leaving many of us perturbed by the dating game. As the new year draws closer, the following dating habits are ones we should let die once the clock strikes twelve into 2016.
1. Netflix And Chill
Most people will defend Netflix and Chill and say it’s a more intimate way of getting to know someone. But the term has become sexual innuendo. Netflix and Chill is an acceptable date night for couples who have been seeing each other for a couple of months or years, but if you’re on the market and actively seeking a prospective partner, Netflix and Chill should not be a date idea or option. Seriously, we’re grown, not college kids cooped up in a dorm.
2. Going Ghost
If ever you decide that you aren’t interested in someone anymore, grow up and let them know. Going ghost is childish and makes it okay not to accept responsibility for your decisions. I once “dated” a guy who just disappeared for a month without an explanation or reason. It’s a cop out, and you, at least, owe it to that person to let them know how you feel.
3. Claiming Somebody Who Isn’t Claiming You
It’s true, we all want to be wanted, and we all want love, but don’t sacrifice your dignity and waste your time claiming someone who isn’t even checking for you. Don’t embarrass yourself by changing that Facebook relationship status or making him your #MCM every week and he doesn’t even acknowledge your existence.
4. Lowering Your Standards
It’s time to Glo the hell up in 2016, ladies! It’s time to drop the bitterness and jaded mentality. It’s time to do away with the idea that “men ain’t s–t” and up your standards. Stop stooping low to accommodate a man who can’t even lead you and wait for someone worthy enough who will. Stop dealing with men who claim your standards are too high and wait for the man who will effortlessly rise to meet and exceed them.
5. Cuffing Season
Seriously, we’re too old for games. If you’re just dating someone for a season so you won’t be lonely, then you should probably be alone. If you can put in that much effort to entice, date and make someone fall in love with you for a season, then you should be able to continue your efforts with them. If you’re just looking to date around, make that known from the start rather than devising an entire plan with an exit strategy. Grow up.
6. Being Afraid To Make The First Move
Stop thinking the man always has to make the first move. You set the pace and make it happen! Let him know you’re interested rather than waiting around wishing for him to notice you in a room full of people. I’ve never heard of a man turning down a woman just because she asked him out before he could ask her.
7. Seeking Web Approval
If there’s one thing that I have learned from my dating experiences, it’s that the whole world wide web doesn’t need to know your business. It’s cool that you want people to know that you’re happy and found somebody new, but spare them every single atom-sized detail of your relationship. We don’t need to know every argument you had, every time you guys kissed, every time he bought you something, etc. Make memories together and not for the world.
8. Showing Up To The Table With Nothing
Having standards is important when pursuing someone. Bringing something to the table is important too. Don’t step to them if you aren’t stepping correctly. When people work hard for what they have and the life they live, they don’t want just anybody. Also, you should want someone who can supply you with all the things you need emotionally and spiritually, not just material things.
9. Being The Side Chick
Let’s be real, you’re both the side chick to each other. There is no main regardless of how much he spends on you versus the other woman. He is dividing himself emotionally between the both of you and is, therefore, half-assing your relationship. You deserve someone who is going to give you their time and love, only you. There are enough men in this world to where you shouldn’t feel you need to stay devoted and fight for someone who doesn’t all the way want you. You’re not a flavor of the day or a watch for every occasion that he can change.
10. $200 Dollar Date Debate
It’s time to hang this debate up and get over it. Look, $200 is not a lot to spend on a date in this economy. Maybe in the ’90s and on back, but today? No. Even a simple dinner and movie date can cost you a grip these days. On average, a trip to the movie theater for two will cost about $30 for tickets, an additional $15 for concession. Dinner could run you a bill of nearly $100 when you add up entrees and drinks. Dating is expensive. That’s it.
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11. Defining Gender Roles
Ladies, it’s okay to go half on the bill sometimes, it’s okay to cover the tab, and it’s okay to take him out on dates. Fellas, it’s okay to make less money, and it’s okay to cook and wash the dishes and do the house chores. It’s 2015, not 1950.
12. Settling For Bad Sex
While sex shouldn’t be the sole purpose for your relationship, at least, make it a good part of it. Ladies, stop faking orgasms and teach him how to explore your body. Fellas, stop rushing and take your time to learn her. Sometimes we settle for bad sex hoping that one day it will get better out of nowhere, or out of fear that we’ll hurt the other person. Let showing your partner be the best teacher rather than telling them.
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13. Comparing Relationships
It’s cool to look to couples who seem to be doing well for inspiration and hope that your relationship can reach that level. But comparison is the worst thing you can do to the unique partnership you have. #RelationshipGoals should be things like financial security, and unconditional love and support. So rather than looking for goals in friends’ relationships and celebrity relationships, how about setting some real goals with your partner?
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14. Believing that The Perfect Man Exists
Stop believing that the perfect man exists. Just because he checks out when it comes to a few qualities on your list, that doesn’t mean he’s going to meet every single one. When you are realistic, you won’t be disappointed when things start to get real and you have to deal with actual dating problems.
15. Not Choosing Happiness
Go for whatever you think you deserve, and believe that you deserve happiness. If being happy is choosing to walk away from a dead-end relationship, don’t go into the new year still hanging on by a string. Cut it. If it would make you happy to ask the hot guy out whom you’ve been secretly crushing on for months, then go for it! You owe it to yourself to choose happiness in whatever you do.
